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A new book for you, an orgasmic one :)

Olgasmic, the book

If you provide your answer, on how to turn thoughts into orgasmic ones, that would be wonderful!

It’s a title of my new book, just released:

“How to Turn
Any Rising Thought
Into an Orgasmic One:

How to Let a Rising Thought Be More Effective, Efficient,
Nurturing You With Pleasure”

Here’s the book description:

So you found a better feeling thought… What’s next?
Wouldn’t it be nice to milk it for more?
Wouldn’t it be flowing, from one good feeling thought to get to fly in beautiful alignment?
Wouldn’t it be sweet, to align easily, happily, in a delicious flow?
Wouldn’t it be benefiting you, to come to a higher frequency, while you’re enjoying the process?
Wouldn’t it be fun, to be aligning simply (but interestingly)?
The book will tell you how to do it, evoking in you some profound thinking, recognizing, realizing. Thoughts that will feel even better, and a vibration that is much higher, and a happiness ocean, flowing in you (or you basking in it).

See you in the book! :)

And what are your discoveries in working with your thoughts?

Answers :: How to handle a challenging situation?

To a question “My toddler drives me crazy and throws me out of alignment every day despite best efforts. Where am I going wrong?”, my answer:

I agree with @Stingray.. and disagree :)

I agree about doing the processes that align you, and I myself have the whole book about that “Unhurtable” ..even process, rather than notion.

I disagree about “giving buttons” and “becoming unhurtable forever”. Same as I disagree about looking for reasons of your situation. Because all that moves your focus away from just aligning and finding Your answers using Your inner GPS, Your inner guidance.

How about – this is just a stream, one of those you consist of (as each your desire forms one), and you’re just in the stage of it being expanded (by itself, for life’s and your sake) and not yet harmonized (by you).

(In projection to what AH teach, similar to step one and step three.)

So all you need to (want to) do is just seeking relief in every moment you feel not in harmony. Seeking relief by looking for a thought that lets you feel better in the situation you’re in.

As AH say, “Don’t seek improvement, don’t seek solution, just seek relief.”

What will happen, it will change your state in the stream, you might be even able to enjoy that same situation! And then the whole situation will change, as the every-moment-updated expression of your energy, of the ratio of harmonization in this your stream of this specific desire.

And you will be able to live in the current moment, not trying to solve the situation forever, just harmonizing in your every moment in the stream you find the most touching you then, or at all.

Why I disagree with looking for reasons – as AH say, “it’s a bottomless pit”. In every situation you will look for the “reasons” in that situation, when actually the “reason” is one: the pre-harmony (I prefer this title) in a great, exciting, satisfying stream of one of your deliciousest desires, found this way to express itself. That’s it. When you harmonize, it will find the way to express the harmony.

Why I disagree with “giving buttons” – because it looks blaming you and, more important, making you try to solve this “weakness”. Instead of harmonizing and praising your sensitivity in Feedback about your Emotional stance and your beliefs. When you align, it will become observable and rather simple.

And why I disagree with “seeking becoming unhurtable forever” – because you have a life to live, many lives to live, and your streams will expand, yielding for you new heights of happiness, – but in the beginning, when they expand, the pre-harmony will be finding its way to express itself, and you may spend a life in trying to “wrestle it to the ground and kill it, forever”, or you may just seek relief – the simplest, surest way to harmonize, and live currently, presently, enjoyingly, in every newly coming moment.

Be happy. :) You have all the reasons to.

By the way, you could take “Where am I going wrong?” as the first thought you will find a thought that feel better, from. I would probably recommend you not to go for big processes, at least at first, as they may too resemble “wrestling it to the ground and killing it forever”, trying to fix the situation in order to feel better, I would recommend simple small steps, like here. Good feeling to you. :)

A revelation

I just connected the dots.. or the dots were connected in me and for me. :)

1. From yesterday’s post: “because in most cases the basic concept of mentoring says:
“I know something, that would be good for you,
that you haven’t figured out,
so you’re flawed in this way.””

2. From AH LIVE Dec 10, when we deem something as wrong, even if we don’t do that (!), it is detrimental to us, this resistance. (In the LIVE they spoke about vaccinations, and AH said this: if you deem them wrong, no matter if you do them or not, it’s still detrimental to you!).

3. All the comparisons I got these days:
“when you feel jealous, you diminish yourself” ~ AH
“when you don’t respect your choices, you don’t respect yourself” ~ Bashar

4. My all-the-time feeling, that something is not quite home, when I’m thinking of my coaching clients (or any people that don’t know anything about energies) as operating .. like blind kitties, they don’t know where they move, what they do, how to go for what they want, they come to funny conclusions, trying blindly to find their way to what they want.. without a map, without seeing clearly. I feel such a shame now, when I realize this.. I want to apologize to my clients and all the people I perceived this way.

But I’ve always been thinking, “but it’s true! How can I see it any other way? They do lack this knowledge!” (Again this trap of “truth” instead of “what is it that I do want?”, even though then it became “I want them to know it! I want them to operate with open eyes!”.. Now I see, it could be “what I do want, is to feel good when looking at them, interacting with them, thinking about them, speaking to them. What would it be, that would give me this feeling good?” Probably the first thought, the relief, would be “Maybe it’s not THAT bad, that they don’t know?..”)

And now I realized:

1. Whatever I’m doing, MY deeming it wrong, that they don’t know, is detrimental and diminishing to me. I’m suppressing, judging, not letting live fully, something in ME, when I’m judging it as wrong in them, in their life.

2. I can see it as a bigger picture: that ultimately it was their choice to live these challenges in this way. And that ultimately everyone is fine, and in this moment they’re living what they intended to live. I can offer them my understanding of the situation, if they wish to hear it, but it’s not wrong, where they are, and it won’t be better when they know what I tell them. There’s no hierarchy. There’s just life.

How freeing. :)

P.S. The video the 2nd paragraph reminded me of:

(“Bashar – Ultimately Everyone is Just Fine”: video)

By the way:

“it’s how you use it.
And that’s why we simply say, circumstances don’t matter – not to discount them,
but to let you know it’s what meaning you decide to give them,
that determines, what effect you can extract from them.” ~ Bashar

Wow! It happens as I go! :)

In the previous post I wrote about taking action to express the new energy I prefer, but still, somewhere in the background it was also about “if I don’t take action, how then will it come to exist?” in it. Yes, I know, I know, it comes, it is so obvious, when thought “from the outside”, but inside, when the specifics seem to cover it all, it’s just so hard to accept. I was even crying a little bit yesterday, feeling “I need the clue! It’s hard for me not to see it at all!”, saying to myself on one hand, I don’t really need to see it now, and the vibrational work (play? I didn’t find an appropriate word for it yet. Maybe, “developing the vibrational project”?) is actually much more productive when I don’t see the physical solution, but on the other, my human nature (or probably as Bashar would say, my physical mind, wanting to be in charge), demanded some reason to be put on ease…

After going general, going with some meditations yesterday, some revealing, relieving and releasing, I said to myself: “I will let this reveal itself to me.”

But somewhere, I guess, the question still was there.

Now, checking the previous post in Facebook, I paid attention to “People You May Know” – it was impossible not to, one person (Ashley Stephenson) attracted me immeasurably, it was amazing, as if her energy stood out really really big time. I sent her a friendship request, and she confirmed immediately. I felt really drawn there.. so I went to her wall and found this:

(“Abraham Hicks: create money without action?”: video)

Day by day, I feel it more and more, how the Universe s caring for me, providing me with answers, just what I wanted, at just the right time.. I feel so love and responded to, and cared for.. I feel deeply loved. Thank you, the Universe. And you. :)

Food choices: the new clarification

One more piece from this AH LIVE, I just remembered. Abraham called it “the best discussion of food we’ve ever had.”

When someone asked, how to choose – I want to eat that twinkie, I don’t want to limit myself, but I also want my weight to go down, –

Abraham replied (not a precise quote):

“it’s not that we don’t want you to eat that twinkie,
it’s your connection with Source that you want to matter to you *the most*.

So if your eating twinkie undermines your connection with Source,
then tend to your connection first,
and when it doesn’t, then do whatever your heart is pleased to do.”

It is so clarifying, I’m just amazed. No more torturing over any food choices. “Just keep your alignment the top priority and if you see something you’re up to be doing, is going to break that connection, then stop to align and then..” :)

More thoughts about the emotional grid

Now I’m starting to understand – when for my quicker getting what I want, the Universe brings me some events I see as “negative”, or I just look at what is and don’t like it, then indeed it’s my seeing this event/state/thing as positive or negative – is all that defines, what I experience later:

when I choose to see it as negative, or just don’t diffuse the resistance that becomes observable, then my emotional grid becomes THAT – these feelings of frustration, worrying, etc.

when I choose to see it as help on my way, as a positive part of the process, my emotional grid is filled with positive feelings of security, harmony, confidence, love, and then it is correspondingly filled, and I feel it – on the level of thoughts, feelings, inspirations and events.

What a perfect, harmonious mechanism.. Life is a miracle itself. :)

Emotional ladder

In the group I’m now leading, The Pleasure and Art of Feeling Healthy & Beautiful
(you’re welcome to join us! :))
every day I’m adding a new activity to engage in, to practice our preferences in our health and beauty.

Today’s Activity is about one of my very basic techniques, on which all my focus delights are built. I so enjoyed writing it, it was just flowing.. :)

Here it is:

Today’s activity is challenging, interesting, relieving.. and unusual. :)

First I want to ask you:
Do you feel, that emotional pain represents a stream of energy, that contains joy that we can ..unlock from there? And the more intensive the pain is (or shame, or fear), the more intensive the joy will be that we’ll let out from that stream?

If you said “yes” :) I encourage you to take today a place that is most challenging for you regarding your health and (can be exercised separately, too) beauty. The more reward it will give you both immediately and in the long run.

If you feel it’s just too stiff, then take something less intensive, try on that and then if you wish, come back to those most challenging issues. The most joy awaits there, in the form of relief.

What trips us up the most in our vibrational journey, is the criterion we choose for thinking a thought: usually it is “if it’s true”. And we know that that path is doomed: “true” is something that already “is”, if we always state what “is”, we will never shift to anything new.

So now we will try to shift to a new criterion “if it feels better” and really feel it!

Now take that something in your health or beauty, that you can, looking at it with your “normal people honesty and objectiveness”, not covering any unpleasant feelings, call “not wanted”.

Probably your set-point about it will be “it’s bad” (that you have that).

If it is a higher set-point, then later in the ladder you may choose a higher statement that more suits you.

Now take a statement “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad”.

The criterion that we have ingrained, “if it’s true”, will start to look for “the true estimate” – is it really bad or really not that bad?

But you want to listen to something else.

Take again that thought “It’s bad”. Notice, how it *feels*.

Then move to “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad” and notice how IT *feels*.

Then switch again back and forth, back and forth, until you feel, that there’re actually are two components:

one – the physical “fact” you have in your focus,

and two – how the way you think about it, matters to you!

If you don’t feel it yet, and just feel some resistance when trying “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad”, then you just haven’t felt it yet, continue to switch back and forth, and feel how on the ESTIMATION “it’s bad” something contracts in you, and on “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad” – it expands. Feel the breath of fresh air you have on “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad”.

Can you really feel it?

When you do find the difference, try to switch several more times, the difference will become more and more clear. And then, when you’re switching to “maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad”, breathe in (lightly!) the light, the relief, that you feel there.

Enjoy this freed energy, this burst of good feeling. Breathe it in. Feel how it now takes all your attention, how you’re drawn to it, how you stop caring what “really” is there, you just love this feeling and it takes you all…..

Do you feel it?

When you feel you’ve ..kind of satisfied with this celebration and eager to move forward, then take the next pair of statements:

“maybe it’s not THAT, AWFULLY bad”
“what if it contains not only bad, but also good for me?”

Remember, we’re never trying to affirm! Never trying to force ourselves into taking the next statement, never! Otherwise we do not truly shift, something inside us stays where we were, we just “cover it with the smile stick”.

Only honest comparing of the feeling inside that we get from one estimation and from the next. The first, the next, the first, the next. Back and forth. Until we again feel the difference and it grows within us, and we start enjoying it, breathing it in, tending to it “no matter what”, until it takes us all.

Then when you’re satisfied with the celebration and eager to continue, play with the next statements:

“what if it contains not only bad, but also good for me?”
“what if the good it contains, is more valuable and important for me, than the bad?”
“what if the good it contains, is valuable and important for me?”
“what if it’s not just good for me, but wonderful?”
“it’s wonderful for me”

Do not just go through the ladder, trying to compare all the sentences all together, because while you may choose what feels best for you, but you won’t really shift the set-point of the subject at hand.

Always take and compare just two consecutive statements. And again, no affirming! Just honest comparison of the feelings.

Are you up to it? :)

You know, you don’t have to go through the whole ladder. Listen to your Inner Guidance.

By the way, if you haven’t noticed, what we were doing in this technique – we were listening to our Inner Guidance.

We were training ourselves to return to that innate knowing we had when we came here, to listen to our Inner Guidance, not to some outer criteria. So now in some sense, we’re more aligned than ever.

Can you feel that? :)

..After that exercise my recommendation is – don’t touch this subject for some time. Because we shifted vibration deep enough, it will bring us new thoughts about this subject. Then we may want to observe and record them. Until then – just breathing in the new energy lets us milk it where we came to, and fills the space that was earlier filled with old thoughts, given by the old vibration. Now you see things differently, but go eeeeeeeeasily about it. :)

Ease and flow. :)

An emotional ladder on.. pretty much everything :)

“I feel fearful, why?

I’m afraid things won’t go my way, why?

Because I have a belief, that “this is just not how things work”, and so it is hard for me to believe, that things will go as I want them to go this time, because it’s not a usual way. (It’s not that things don’t work specifically for me, it’s that there’s a certain way things tend to go – objectively).

But what if “the way things work” is different on different levels on my vibration?

And what if they can go accordingly to my preferences now, when I myself gave them (the preferences) more value?

What if I could experience more things opening to me, more opportunities than “normally are”, more things going to my pleasure?

I think it could be quite logical.

I love this life. :)

And I love myself. So smart……….amazing!” :))

Allowing Money

My every day now seems to be about new stories. :) I did my 3-column-process:
(this way it just seems to be the most effective for me) on money, and what I came to today, was this focus wheel, becoming a rampage. It’s a lot of things that I would as if “know”, but here it was a process of finding them from inside, as a feeling.. I’ll be glad if it gives you something, too.

“I realize, that I feel like what I want the most (to sit home and just be doing what I want to be doing, doing all things this way, on inspiration, coming from inside), can’t be supported by the resources of my current reality.

It brings words as “not from where”, as if everything is stating, that what I “want” – not as important as what the authorities count as earned by me, deserved by me.

I don’t see a physical criteria (well, almost), by which I “would have a right to” to be provided.

What if I could live better and feel peaceful? What if I could get it “just because” I want it?

There’re people, for whom it happens.

What if my wanting is somehow, anyhow, noble and deserving consideration?

What if I’m worthy?

It looks like I’ve been approaching it from a wrong side: trying to find, how I can justify in my world me getting money, because my desire didn’t seem deserving, valid enough.

What if my desires are valid?

What if I indeed may get something just because I have a vibrational alignment with it?

What if I don’t need to earn it? What if my desire is enough for me to get it?
(It gives me relief => right direction :))

What if I shouldn’t *seek* it? I should just acknowledge my desire and align with it, and standing here in alignment, I’m getting it?

It’s not “going somewhere to get it”, not seeking it, not looking for it. It’s here, it comes to me here, where I stand in alignment with my Source that wants it for me. That IS it for me.

My Source IS my Well-Being. I AM my Well-Being. I shouldn’t just deny it to myself, seeking to find it from outer sources.

I AM abundance in this world. I AM.

I can freely share from myself.

What if for me it can succeed, too – that I could be abundant and flourishing and easy and doing what I want, when I Want and the way I want!

Wow.. So the Inner Being I’m connecting to, IS all this and more..”

Morning wisdom

I so love what I’m doing.. Sometimes my morning trying to find, why I am so frustrated and what to do about it, brings me such wonderful insights. :)

Here’re two pieces of focus delights that are still in the drafts

(the point in focus delights is not to convince myself in anything, but to find the pathways, supported by my Source):

Step 13

More thoughts for this step:

Step 14

More thoughts for this step:

and one more, from another FD:

Step 11

More thoughts for this step:

What do you feel? :)