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Day 4 in NaNoWriMo :: it comes by itself

I thought after such an effort at night (to finish doing all I felt I better be finishing then) I would feel like wanting to do nothing now, like I felt on day 2, but no, instead I feel like.. grown up. Like in the end of an exam session in the University, when I was feeling I can learn so much more now!

Maybe the difference is in a stage: a stage of a chaos in the system, or a stage when it went to the higher order. Bill Harris explained these stages:

“Dissipative structures flourish in unstable, fluctuating environments by
being plastic enough to handle the variations and changes in such
environments. The more ordered and complex a system becomes, the more
entropy it must dissipate in order to maintain its existence. Conversely,
each system has an upper limit, due to its level of complexity, of how much
entropy it can dissipate. This is a key point. If the fluctuations from the
environment increase beyond that limit, the system, unable to disperse
enough entropy into its environment, begins to become internally more
entropic, or chaotic.

If the excessive fluctuations continue, the chaos eventually becomes so
great that the system begins to break down until finally a point is reached
where the slightest nudge can bring the whole system grinding to a halt.

This point, which Prigogine called a bifurcation point — bifurcate means
to divide into two branches — is a decision point, a moment of truth.
Either the system totally breaks down and ceases to exist as an organized
system or it spontaneously reorders itself in an entirely new way.
Incredibly, this reorganization is non-causal and non-linear with what
went before — it is in no way predictable from prior conditions. Only the
probability of a certain outcome can be determined. The change is a true
quantum leap, a death and re-birth, and the main characteristic of the new
system is that it has the capability to handle the fluctuations, the input
from the environment, that caused the initial overwhelm and eventual
break-down of the old system. In Prigogine’s words, the system “escapes
into a higher order.”

Out of chaos comes a new order, a more evolved system. This new system has
a new stability and is able to more easily exist in the previously
overwhelming high fluctuation environment. But if fluctuations increase
again to a level beyond the system’s new and higher capacity for dispersion
of entropy, the process will repeat, resulting in new internal chaos and
another reorganization at a new and yet more evolved level.

The human brain is the ultimate dissipative structure, constantly taking in
energy and matter from the environment, constantly dispersing entropy. We
are able to handle amazing amounts of fluctuation from the environment,
encountering all kinds of new ideas, stimuli, and events, handling them
without threat to the system.

But if fluctuations reach a certain critical point, different for each
individual, we begin to feel overwhelmed and become less and less able to
deal with increased environmental input. Eventually, the system (our mental
construct of “what is”) is forced either to break down or to reorganize at
a higher, more evolved level. The process goes something like this: first
things make sense; then, as chaos increases, they no longer make sense any
more; finally, after reorganization, they make sense again, but in a whole
new way, never before imagined.

It is easy to see from the foregoing discussion that certain types of
people will be more likely to reach this “moment of truth” — what Abraham
Maslow called “peak experience” — and give themselves the chance of
“escaping into a higher order.” Those who constantly open themselves to new
ideas and experiences and who are not afraid of feeling a bit overwhelmed
once in a while are more likely to have this type of peak experience and
are therefore more likely to evolve.”

So I’m probably in a higher order now. I do feel like I am capable for more now. Great! :)

In the beginning it felt like writing, quickly, without editing, and I was doubting, if I ever want to stop, go back and edit, ever. And here I am wanting to edit more than to write something new, and what’s delicious for me now, is to write the details of what was only given as a trail, a trajectory, to give it a flesh, to get the juicy details in it, to milk it for more taste, for richer taste.

And I couldn’t see it coming.

It reminds me of Bashar’s “trusting the highest excitement”, about that girl who didn’t always want to do the cleaning for her animals:


(“Bashar – Trusting Your Joy”: video)

It also reminds me the Hero’s Journey in it all: because it’s a journey, and also because I remember that special part of the Hero’s Journey, “just before the dawn”, when it seems the darkest and the goal achievement seems absolutely impossible. And then it does come. Like my editing. :)

It’s a delicious home to be in, my writing, my communicating with the book, being in this space. I’m glad I’m here.

And here’s a video that explained to me why I was intuitively rejecting counting the words:


(“Abraham Hicks 2015 – It’s all about the energy and the energy leads to action”: video)

Taking score!! This is what counting words is! One more confirmation that it’s good (for me) to listen inside. :)

P.S. I’m writing it at the end of the day. Two editings (I mean, in two books) are done. But what I felt in the beginning of the day, that I’m ready – I felt it only when I wasn’t really approaching to do the physical stuff. The physical took me again, releasing it, agreeing, that I do nothing today.

Then 3am, I was called in. Feeling fulfilled now, letting myself speak, in a way that is approved by me now.

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“Life is happening NOW”

“When you find that unconditional place of utterly allowing alignment with the Energy that Creates Worlds… ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

But we don’t want you to accomplish this so that you can change the condition – although it will – we want you to find this because… Ah! Love feels so much better right NOW than hopeless… so much better, right NOW. Life is NOW and NOW and NOW and NOW. It’s not later. It’s not later. It wasn’t before. It’s not next. It’s NOW. Right NOW, you can resonate with the fullness of who you are or not. That’s all. Good to know, isn’t it?” ~ AH

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“Within the seed of your desire is everything necessary for it to blossom to fulfillment.

And Law of Attraction is the engine that does the work.
Your work is just to give it a fertile growing place in order to expand.” ~ AH

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Beautiful! :)

Finding Balance Rampage

“There is more POWER in “Isn’t that pretty?” than there is in “I’ve set goals and I’m going to make it happen and I’m really good at this and I know what to do and I’m gonna get out there and things are gonna work out for me”. There’s much more POWER in
“Isn’t that beautiful?”
Look how that is working out for me
Look how a good place I’m in
I’m so happy about what I’ve put in my Vortex and
I know it will eventually come to me in perfect timing and
I’m not too worried about the timing
I’m gonna let it come when it comes and
I know my work is just relaxing and allowing it to reveal itself to me because of my readiness, and
I now understand that my readiness is what really matters, and
My readiness is about focusing in a place that allows me ease
It’s like creating from the inside out
It’s a focusing upon conditions already in my control
My bed is so soft and my pillow is so good, and
The temperature in my room is just right, and
The sun is gonna come up in the morning and,
The moon is in the sky tonight, and
My planet is spinning in its orbit, and
The water is moving around the planet, and
The wellbeing is evident when I look for it, and
There’s so much going well not just for me, but for all of us, so much going well, and
I like knowing that I am the creator of my own reality, and
I’m getting better at it all the time, and
I don’t have anything to prove to anybody, and
Everything that I want is because I will feel better in the experiencing of it
But I like knowing that I’m an extension of Source Energy, and
I’m happy here in this contrasting environment, and
I’m eager to carve out what I want, and
I believe that my Vortex is full of those choices and,
I can’t think about them all at once without getting out of balance but I don’t have to.
I trust that they’re there,
I’m just gonna generally accept that they’re there, and
I know in the subject of my body and the subject of my home and the subject of my relationships and the subject of my finances and the subject of my life that I’m basically in a place of wellbeing, and
I’m eager for Law of Attraction to bring more and more evidence of that wellbeing, and I like the evidences that come.
Oh, I love the momentum.
And now I understand that my work is to get it straight in the beginning and as the momentum comes, it’s pleasing
I’m willing to stay here as long as it takes to get it vibrationally straight for me
I’m willing to get up 15 minutes earlier to get off on the right foot because I accept that when I slumber momentum stops and that I can start anew.

Sort of like when someone walks up to you and hands you a pile of books that is 20 feet tall and they were steady and handed it to you. Well, you’re probably not gonna be ready for that right away. You’re probably not going to be ready for that, but if someone handed you a book and then handed you another one, and then handed you another one, and then handed you another one and you just keep getting your balance, and you just keep getting your balance, and you just keep getting your balance, it might get up there pretty good.
You see where we are getting at?
So, you want to find your balance early on and you can; and then Law of Attraction will just keep bringing you another piece that’s in balance and another piece that’s in balance and another piece that’s in balance, until you’re so in balance that it doesn’t matter what anybody brings you, it won’t set you out of balance because you’ve established you balance, you see…”

Abraham Hicks, Albuquerque, March 22nd, 2014

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My life and the story structure

On “Writing Your Life Story” event Bashar recommended that we study story structure, in order to write our life story in such a way, that it would be believable to us, as it would match a certain archetype, “Hero’s Journey”, that we have embedded very deeply.

So starting to look at the story structure points, I’m starting to understand, what he meant. Indeed, looking at my life like this opens a lot of new doors for me, as now I can see it in a more empowered way.

Victor Frankl said, that a person can survive any challenge, if they know, what purpose it has, what goal it serves. If they know, that there’s some sense to it, some point to it.

I think, that’s the first thing that the story structure opens for me.

Here’re two I just found, very interesting:

“One good model for story structure (taught to me by Bruce Holland Rogers) is Algis Budrys’s seven point story structure. It has:

a character,
in a situation,
with a problem,
who tries repeatedly to solve his problem,
but repeatedly fails, (usually making the problem worse),
then, at the climax of the story, makes a final attempt (which might either succeed or fail, depending on the kind of story it is), after which
the result is “validated” in a way that makes it clear that what we saw was, in fact, the final result.

Another good one (taught to me by Steven Barnes) is Joseph Campbell’s Hero’s Journey:

The hero is confronted with a challenge,
rejects it,
but then is forced (or allowed) to accept it.
He travels on the road of trials,
gathering powers and allies, and
confronts evil—only to be defeated.
This leads to a dark night of the soul, after which
the hero makes a leap of faith that allows him to
confront evil again and be victorious.
Finally, the student becomes the teacher.”

“For example, lots of stories can be thought of as the first few steps on the Hero’s Journey: a challenge, a rejection of the challenge, and then an acceptance of the challenge. The acceptance of the challenge is the climax of the story. The “validation” segment of the story should imply the rest of the Hero’s Journey. The reader should end the story knowing that there will be a road of trials, that evil will be confronted, and so on.

Lots of other stories can be thought of as just the dark night of the soul and the leap of faith. The early steps along the hero’s journey can be filled in with flashbacks or simply implied by the circumstances of the characters as the story begins. However it happens, the reader needs to learn that the hero accepted the challenge, confronted evil, and was defeated. The story ends with the reader knowing that the hero will face evil again and this time be victorious.”

“Geoffrey A. Landis had a pretty good description of the essential core of a short story. A story needs to:

Require the character to make a choice,
show that choice by actions, and
those actions must have consequences.

That’s bare-bones enough that you really can’t leave any of those elements out. It isn’t good enough for the character to make a choice that isn’t required by the story. It isn’t good enough to have the character make a choice that is entirely in his head with no resulting actions. It isn’t good enough for the character to make a choice where the result is that everything is the same as it would have been anyway.”

Philip Brewer, Story Structure in Short Stories

How interesting! It’s like, I’m reading about my life. Starting to understand it better. Seeing it more as exciting, intriguing, interesting, worth to live, valuable, having sense.

Or this:

“Classic story structure begins with plot; plot is WHAT HAPPENS.”

“A theme — your message or meaning — is revealed through plot.”

“plots that work:

Action
Background
Conflict
Development
End”

“Development usually accounts for 70 to 80 percent of the mass of the story.” (and you’re waiting for the manifestation, like me? :))

“But you must offer your readers a definite resolution to the story’s Conflict.”

“When the Conflict of a story has been resolved, what’s left? The Consequences of that story. How have your protagonist and his world changed — or stubbornly refused to change — as a result of the story? The French call this part of the story the ‘denouement’ or ‘unraveling.’ At the end of Dickens’s ‘A Christmas Carol,’ Scrooge shows us that he’s changed. How? By climbing out of bed, throwing open his window and asking an urchin on the street below what day it is. When he learns that it’s Christmas, Scrooge instructs the boy to buy the biggest turkey in the butcher’s window for Tiny Tim’s family. When the boy returns, Scrooge pays him, laughing while he hands the money over. That’s right — Scrooge laughs while paying for something! He has changed! It’s a textbook denouement.”

“But if it doesn’t have Conflict, Development, and Climax, it isn’t a story. If you don’t believe that, just try to tell a satisfying anecdote that lacks these components. Or tell a joke that lacks classic story structure, and see if anyone laughs.”

“Of course, you aren’t required to use this structure in telling stories. But if you do, however, your stories, novellas and novels will work. That is, when people are done reading one of your pieces of fiction, they will feel as if they’ve been told a story. Not a ‘character sketch,’ but a real story.”

Adam Sexton, Classic Story Structure Begins with Plot

“Once upon a time, there was a thirsty man on a couch. He got up off the couch, went to his kitchen, searched through his refrigerator, found a soda, drank it, and returned to his couch, thirst quenched.

That was “perfect story structure.” On the other hand, the story sucked.

Here’s a converse example:

Once upon a time, a car exploded. A Navy Seal killed a werewolf. Two beautiful naked women had sex with each other, then a robot shot the moon with a Jesus-powered laser. The world became overpopulated by zombies. The End.

Lot of exciting, creative stuff happening, but very little structure. Again, boo, but the lesbian scene did give me a boner.

What do you want? You want both. You want to be cool, but you’re going to be cooler if the structure is there. Cool stuff with no structure is like that perfect scene you recorded when you left the lens cap on. “Guess you had to be there.” Show me an army of zombies and I might say “cool zombies,” but I’m not going to “be there.” “

That’s exactly what Bashar was saying: when we’re trying to rewrite the scenario of our life, but do not do it with the story structure, we’re “not there”.

Then I started thinking, but if I’m expecting that I get something through troubles, okay, “journey”, then it will surely come through troubles, won’t it?.. And maybe I could expect it easier?

Then I found, that I can say, that I’m already on a stage, where the development is close to its end, all the “bad stuff” is already in the past, and now I can expect good things. This matches the way AH tell it, by the way: that step one is actually behind me (as is step 2), and now I can just align with my Vortex and get the good stuff. That made me feel good. :)

“And what are those steps? Class?

1) You
2) Need
3) Go
4) Search
5) Find
6) Take
7) Return
8) Change”

Dan Harmon, STORY STRUCTURE 106: FIVE MINUTE PILOTS

What an interesting thing life is.. Thank you, Bashar, for showing me this angle. :)

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A revelation

I just connected the dots.. or the dots were connected in me and for me. :)

1. From yesterday’s post: “because in most cases the basic concept of mentoring says:
“I know something, that would be good for you,
that you haven’t figured out,
so you’re flawed in this way.””

2. From AH LIVE Dec 10, when we deem something as wrong, even if we don’t do that (!), it is detrimental to us, this resistance. (In the LIVE they spoke about vaccinations, and AH said this: if you deem them wrong, no matter if you do them or not, it’s still detrimental to you!).

3. All the comparisons I got these days:
“when you feel jealous, you diminish yourself” ~ AH
“when you don’t respect your choices, you don’t respect yourself” ~ Bashar
etc.

4. My all-the-time feeling, that something is not quite home, when I’m thinking of my coaching clients (or any people that don’t know anything about energies) as operating .. like blind kitties, they don’t know where they move, what they do, how to go for what they want, they come to funny conclusions, trying blindly to find their way to what they want.. without a map, without seeing clearly. I feel such a shame now, when I realize this.. I want to apologize to my clients and all the people I perceived this way.

But I’ve always been thinking, “but it’s true! How can I see it any other way? They do lack this knowledge!” (Again this trap of “truth” instead of “what is it that I do want?”, even though then it became “I want them to know it! I want them to operate with open eyes!”.. Now I see, it could be “what I do want, is to feel good when looking at them, interacting with them, thinking about them, speaking to them. What would it be, that would give me this feeling good?” Probably the first thought, the relief, would be “Maybe it’s not THAT bad, that they don’t know?..”)

And now I realized:

1. Whatever I’m doing, MY deeming it wrong, that they don’t know, is detrimental and diminishing to me. I’m suppressing, judging, not letting live fully, something in ME, when I’m judging it as wrong in them, in their life.

2. I can see it as a bigger picture: that ultimately it was their choice to live these challenges in this way. And that ultimately everyone is fine, and in this moment they’re living what they intended to live. I can offer them my understanding of the situation, if they wish to hear it, but it’s not wrong, where they are, and it won’t be better when they know what I tell them. There’s no hierarchy. There’s just life.

How freeing. :)

P.S. The video the 2nd paragraph reminded me of:


(“Bashar – Ultimately Everyone is Just Fine”: video)

By the way:

“it’s how you use it.
And that’s why we simply say, circumstances don’t matter – not to discount them,
but to let you know it’s what meaning you decide to give them,
that determines, what effect you can extract from them.” ~ Bashar

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For coach, writer, therapist, teacher, parent,…

Amazingly useful. I feel like re-thinking, re-basing all my consulting, coaching and writing, based on this principle:

Almost everyone is trying to teach people to change,
so that they can be more effective,

and there’s something sort of off about that,
because it implies, that there’s something wrong with where they are,
which is the opposite
of what you’re wanting to make them to understand.

You have to activate the rightness in people,
you have to activate your view of the perfection in people,
you have to activate your appreciation of people,

and that’s the thing that is most difficult about mentoring,

because in most cases the basic concept of mentoring says:
“I know something, that would be good for you,
that you haven’t figured out,
so you’re flawed in this way,
I do this for you because I see you’ve not been able to do it for yourself,”

and there’s such a vibrational downturn
in that basic premise that you begin with,
that most mentors never overcome it.

And that’s why most mentors gradually
move into just letting most of the people go by the wayside,
while they’re looking for the nuggets, and it’s the same old, same old..

And if you’re looking for the way to make a difference
that will give more people the edge of success,
then what you’re going to demonstrate is
not your ability to find them,
and not your ability to mentor them,
but your ability to believe the unbelievable.

That’s the big message.” ~ AH

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“That’s all there is to that idea of centering”

The best version of describing this formula:


(“Bashar – Mantra”: video)

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A love letter to You from the Universe ♥

So sweet and nice! :) Warming the heart. :) Filled with love. :)


(“A love letter to You from the Universe ♥”: video)

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Doing what you prefer NO MATTER WHAT

..just because it’s the life you would prefer. Amazing video:


(“to Make your Dreams Come True, Bashar”: video)

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