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39. Pride journal
The idea came from Barbara Sher’s Wishcraft: How to Get What You Really Want:
“One purpose of your Actions & Feelings Journal is to keep a simple record of what you accomplish day by day. You can’t imagine how important this is. Most of us have a very distorted notion of how things actually get done in the world. We think that accomplishment only comes from great deeds.
We imagine our heroes striding toward their goals in seven-league boots–writing best-selling novels in three months, building business empires overnight, soaring to stardom out of nowhere–and this gives rise to painfully unrealistic expectations of ourselves. And yet nothing could be further from the truth. Great deeds are made up of small, steady actions, and it is these that you must learn to value and sustain.
Often you feel you’ve done nothing when you’ve actually done a lot. That’s because what you did do seemed beneath notice–it was so small that it didn’t “count.” But it did–just as each stitch counts toward a finished dress, each brick or nail toward a house you can live in, each mistake toward knowing how to do things right.
Directed action, no matter how small, moves toward its point. When you write down what you’ve done, you will have to realize you’ve done it–and you’ll begin to see how small steps add up.”
I loved also:
“Being human, you can’t always have a positive attitude – and you don’t have to. You cannot be consistently self-disciplined – and you don’t have to. You can get where you’re going anyway, and have fun doing it. Are you feeling scared or mad? Get scared. Get mad. Is your self-esteem nonexistent today? Don’t worry about it. It’s irrelevant. Look in the mirror and say, “I’m horrible, I’m a failure, I’m ugly. I’ll never make anything out of myself.” Applaud yourself. Enjoy your negative attitude. And then roll up your sleeves and get down to business.”
Barbara’s idea was to journal both what we did, and what we felt, but I feel like, when I’m remembering the feelings I had – not necessarily positive – I associate with them again, and don’t feel good with it.
But the idea of writing what I did, small steps from today, so that I noticed I did them, – I liked it, and I wanted to have it here as a small tool I could always use, for just that extra boost sometimes.
The next question could be: why do I think I should always do something?
But still, to list here something I did, can feel good :)
